Heal from the inside and transform your relationship to love.

I’m Heather Holzhauser “Paloma” a Licensed Therapist and Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Coach. After years in private practice as a therapist and experiencing perplexing relationships in my personal life, I started to become curious about what was happening. I thought, “I’m a therapist, why can’t I figure this out”! 

It was at that time, I came along the Personal Development School and enrolled in the Certified Integrated Attachment Theory Certification program. I was looking for the missing puzzle piece for the other people in my life, but in reality I found my own missing puzzle piece too.


In all of my years of being a therapist, I have never found anything as transformative as Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory. It has changed the way I view myself, the people in my life, and my clients. If you’re committed to understanding yourself and your partner better, I want you to know there is hope!


Gibson Integrated Attachment Theory is different from traditional attachment theory, because it addresses the Core Wounds, Needs, Boundaries, Communication Patterns, Behavioral Patterns, and Emotional Patterns for each attachment style. 


While I do specialize in working with individuals with dismissive avoidant attachment styles and their partners, I have a wealth of knowledge and expertise in working with any attachment style. 

What is an attachment style?

An attachment style is how a person typically thinks, feels, and acts in their close relationships. All of this happens on autopilot, so you can see how challenging this might be when two people are in relationship with one another have a subconscious set of rules they are “playing by”. Knowledge is power and our first goal is to understand what is happening and bring it to the surface. 

The Four Attachment Styles

Strong emotions can be overpowering and lead to a tendency to distance oneself from others. You might notice yourself disengaging during disagreements or in situations that provoke intense reactions.


This desire for independence can create difficulties in your relationships and internal turmoil, because you long for connection with others, but you unknowingly create strategies to keep people away to avoid feeling unsafe.

Frequently, relationships for the Anxious Preoccupied individual can evoke feelings of anxiety, insecurity, or a sense of unsafety due to an underlying fear of abandonment in your subconscious.


Consequently, you tend to seek greater intimacy in your relationships and may experience anxiety when you detect signs of distancing from a loved one."

Relationships  for the Fearful Avoidant may appear tumultuous, perplexing, and daunting as you can oscillate between avoidance and anxiety.


Depending on the specific relationship, you may alternate between periods of emotional distance and intensity, frequently experiencing uncertainty about your emotions.

In relationships, you often find yourself feeling at ease and comfortable. You excel at expressing your needs and emotions, and you embrace vulnerability in your connections.


Nonetheless, challenges may arise when interacting with individuals who are less secure in their relationships.

If you’re ready for the next step, I would love the opportunity to work with you. 

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  • What is coaching?

    Coaching is a modality used to help people look at their current situation, identify their barriers, gain alternative perspectives and ideas, and formulate an action plan.   It focuses more on the here and now and is a solution-based approach to getting a desired outcome.

  • How is coaching different from therapy?

    Coaching can be therapeutic, but coaching is not therapy and should never be used in lieu of therapy.  Coaching does not address clinical issues and mental health diagnoses.  In coaching sessions, feelings may be expressed, however, no psychoanalysis or therapy will be used in response to the emotions that might be expressed.  It is my ethical responsibility as both a coach and a therapist to refer you to a therapist when clinical work is needed that is out of scope for coaching.